I have had many mentors who have invested deeply in my life. The person I am is in great part because of others pouring into my life.

They have made me a better leader, better husband, father, friend and person.

One of my mentors was a godly businessman who agreed to meet with me periodically. He didn't even think he had anything to offer me, but as I observed his life and ways, I knew he did. He was 20-plus years older than I was, had been extremely successful, and his leadership skills were off the charts.

So, of course, I could learn from him. And I did.

One of the more frequent questions I receive is, how do I find this kind of mentor? Well, I think they are all around, but if you want to find a mentor, you'll have to be intentional.

Here are a few things to consider:

1. Observe people. Who are people already in your life? Do you go to church with them? Do you see them in business or social circles? Are they in a civic club you attend? Do you work out at the same gym? Most likely you have potential mentors around you if you are consciously looking for them.

A word to my pastor friends. I do not believe every mentor in your life has to be another pastor. We can learn leadership—or life—principles from those in secular positions. Obviously, we should choose mentors who have high character and integrity, but some of the godliest people I know are in the business world—and I'm glad to learn from them.

2. Find someone with qualities you aspire to have. Think of an area where you feel you need to grow and look for people who seem to have excelled in those areas. In my experience, they will often share with you times of difficulty in getting to where they are today. You'll learn from their challenges.

I once recruited a mentor simply because he was one of the most humble people I had ever met. It was a quality I admired and wanted to emulate in my life. I knew I could become proud if I were not careful, and I had observed him to be both successful and humble. And that's what I told him in our initial lunch meeting. I wanted to hang out with him because I had observed him to be both, simple and honest.

3. Ask them to meet with you. I usually find a hesitation in people in making the first ask, but equally true has been how receptive people seem to be willing to meet with me when I do. This obviously needs to be reasonable. I probably shouldn't expect Andy Stanley to mentor me, but there are plenty of pastors—and those who are not pastors—who have much for me to learn if I will ask.

If it seems to go well on the "first date," ask them to meet with you periodically. It doesn't have to be often. It could be every quarter or every six months. You'll learn valuable life lessons from them each time you meet.

Know, in a general sense, what you want to learn from this person, but then each time you get together, come with questions. You do the work to prepare for meetings unless the person takes this initiative. Most mentors will not feel they know how to mentor you. And that's okay. You can take the pressure off of them simply by having good questions, which glean from their experience in whatever area you are trying to grow.

4. It's okay to move on when it's time. This doesn't have to be a lifetime arrangement. It could be. I have a few mentors who have been in my life for 25 years or more. I don't speak to them often, but they remain available to me and still periodically invest in my life.

I also have had some mentors who were there for a season of my life. When I began to enter the world of adult parenting, I had a mentor who walked through how things would be different. I have even been mentored through a change I was leading, and we only met one time.

I think we overcomplicate the subject when we put too many parameters around what a mentoring relationship looks like. It can be a fairly simple process. There is something you want to learn, find people who seem to have already learned it, meet with them and soak in their experiences, and then repeat often.

If you are serious about being mentored, simply allow people to speak into your life. You will have many mentors. And your life will be richer.

As a consultant and coach, for almost 20 years, Ron Edmondson has helped thousands of leaders and organizations get better. He served as CEO of Leadership Network and as a pastor. He has revitalized two churches and planted two churches and has a long history in business, government and nonprofit work.

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